Irritating and cliché it may be, the act of letting go and moving on can be very cathartic if you put your mind to it. It’s understandable that you may find it difficult to do so though. You’ve been through a lot. Your good times and bad times are the moments that have shaped you into the person you are today.
With your past experiences, it would be difficult to simply forget all your efforts and move into the future void.
But understand this. When we talk about letting go of your past and moving on, it doesn’t mean you forget your hardships and just focus on the positives.
What we want is for you to let go of all the negativity that accompanied those hardships.
How Do You Let Go?
Think about it. Your negativity is a part of your personality. And deep down, you know it stops you from reaching your true potential. It is your negative thoughts that pull you back when you start to become too adventurous. Because you keep thinking that you’ll never accomplish what you set out to do, so why bother!
But this is precisely why you must let go. Here’s how.
Tell Yourself Your Decision
You cannot will yourself to simply let go of your past choices and move on. You must make a commitment and make the conscious choice up-front to not let your past sabotage your future and present efforts.
You only live one life. You must accept that now is the time to take charge. Your past pains will remain, but don’t give them the power to control your decisions.
Accept Your Responsibility and Your Pain
We all deal with pain in different ways. Some people try to live their life to the fullest; others pressure them within until they have an outburst, while some ignore it altogether. And that’s just about the worst thing you can do. The pain you felt from your past experiences is still there and you need to get it all out of your system.
Doing so will help you understand the significant elements of your pain and what really hurt you. So even if you weren’t directly involved in the incident that prompted your pain, letting go of it will allow you to understand your own personality.
You can only be the victim for so long before the situation becomes messy. Make the choice between learning from your mistakes and wallowing in them for so long that the world starts to regard you as nothing more than an attention seeker. Every person goes through worse problems in their life. And it’s their choice to continue feeling that way and getting away from it that makes them the bigger person.
Focusing on a Better Life
Free yourself from that comfort trap that you’ve formed around yourself and use your moments to challenge yourself in every zone. Learn to forgive past mistakes, even if you cannot forget. But above all, focus on the here and now. We don’t have time to think about the past.
Though fleeting memories may make you feel overwhelmed, remember; letting go of the past and pain will bring newer opportunities for happiness in your life.